Positional Disclaimer

This does not purport to be the end all, nor the be all of polyamory.

A short list of things I’m not looking to do with this blog.

Opinion – very simply, this is the opinion of my person.  I can not live your life, so I can not experience it and explain it.

Truth – I fully acknowledge that facts can be edited, framed, presented in such a way to deceive or push a goal.  I hereby specifically note that:

  • Any facts presented are not immutable – Things change, just like the world around us
  • Any facts are not a comprehensive picture – I will do my best on time I have free in my life & what my nebulous attention span allows.
  • Any facts do not invalidate the emotions in another person – I do not post things to hurt people.  People should acknowledge things I say, framed by someone else’s personal experiences will cause them to trigger memories of things that are not related to me.  These same things said to a major of the people in the country will cause no reaction.

People who read this, I am not trying too …

  • Insult anyone
  • Tell you how to live, only show  you other people can live other ways.
  • Claim one style of love is better than any other style, different things work for different people.
  • Speak about religious views
  • Create a discussion of science versus religion
  • Speak about controlling, or forcing people using political laws
  • Encourage violence via force (written, verbal, physical, social)
  • Hyper accelerate any mob mentality

Scale of issues

  • Just because I write here about one thing, does not mean I’m prioritizing it my entire life over all other issues.
  • There’s a dismissive “meme” or theme out there known as “First world problems“, often times social issues fall in this category.  A survey of the world’s population implies that death affects the most people and any social issue in any given country is far outweighed by death.  Trying to prioritize social issues over each other is inane. I’m not going to tell you polyamory is the most important issue or any other social issue is a bigger deal than another.  I expect the same from you.

What then is truth? A mobile army of metaphors, metonyms, and anthropomorphisms — in short, a sum of human relations, which have been enhanced, transposed, and embellished poetically and rhetorically, and which after long use seem firm, canonical, and obligatory to a people: truths are illusions about which one has forgotten that is what they are; metaphors which are worn out and without sensuous power; coins which have lost their pictures and now matter only as metal, no longer as coins.
We still do not know where the urge for truth comes from; for as yet we have heard only of the obligation imposed by society that it should exist: to be truthful means using the customary metaphors – in moral terms, the obligation to lie according to fixed convention, to lie herd-like in a style obligatory for all…

‘On truth and lie in an extra-moral sense,’ The Viking Portable Nietzsche,p.46-7, Walter Kaufmann transl.

Another fine quote that I find relevant when discussing what issues should be our priorities…in regards to the planet Earth and the universe around it, shown in a picture…

“Look again at that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there-on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.

The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot.

Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.

The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.

It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we’ve ever known.”
Carl Sagan, Pale Blue Dot: A Vision of the Human Future in Space